There are some days we do not forget. One of them for me was the day I became a U.S. citizen. Too bad I was nursing. As we sat there (about 200 or more) the baby got hungry. Hey we were at it for over and hour. The baby got hungry. So I inserted him under the nursing flap made specially for that. All was well for a few minutes until the bailiff came to take my papers. She saw the baby’s but – the only part visible and demanded that I leave the room NOW. Her argument – when the judge would come in – she would be offended. Why? I am in the row 50 something. The judge can barely see me. So why? I had to leave the room. The bailiff also admonished me not to be late, or I will not become a citizen. I tried nursing on the bench, but another alert bailiff demanded that I should stop immediately. When I asked where can I nurse, the answer was in the bathroom, but only in the stall with the door closed. I felt angry, humiliated and was afraid I would miss the ceremony. It has been six years and I am still sorry I let myself be intimidated. But that was the last bathroom nursing for me. No one can do this to me and my baby again. By the way now there is a law that protects the woman’s right to nurse anywhere in any federal building.
Why am I writing about this today – because of the wonderful, funny anti-rant against NIP I got from Norma Ritter today. It was so good, I just had to pass it on:
There are few things less attractive than a person eating. People who
do so in public should be charged with indecent exposure. At the very
least, they should apologize to all the other folk in the vicinity. If
they can’t cover their naked mouths then they should stay at home!
I don’t see why people can’t either eat before leaving the house, or
just take an IV with them. It is a simple matter to carry the
necessary equipment and liquid nutrients in a small cooler. For
goodness sakes, companies give away the coolers for free! And did you
know that the growing trend is to wear a permanent hep-lock in your
Who wants to see people put food in their facial orifice in public?
Come on, we all know what mouths are for, and THAT is most
appropriately done in private!
If people insist on eating in public, the least they can do is to use
a head cover. There are so many attractive covers now available that
you can even match one to your outfit as a fashion statement. It is
easy to make your own from a yard of knit fabric, and you don’t even
need to hem it.
As for this law I keep hearing about, prohibiting the harassment of
those who feed in public, well, that is just ridiculous! We need to
return the the good old days when public decency was more common.
Norma Ritter, IBCLC, RLC
Breastfeeding Matters in the Capital Region
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By the way if you decide to cover up the “eating orifice” and decide that a burkah is not your thing you can always crochet a beard fro yourself. Here is a pattern for Crochet Beard.