Thank G-d it is finally done! The Bar Mitzvah is over. Please note, it only took me a couple of hours to sufficiently recover from childbirth to post the announcement on my blog. This time around it has taken me a week! Says something about me. I wonder what.
As to the event itself – it was a very nice party. Lots of people came and sat through the whole thing and lots more just came by and wished us “Mazel Tov”. Almost everybody we wanted to see has come. Even the people we could not contact, because we did not know the address or phone number. They came through pure Hashgocha Protis (Divine Providence).
I was also happy that my parents decided to come. We were not sure up until the last moment, but they made it. And having my MIL there was just wonderful. I do not think I could have done this without her help.
My son did very well. He said his maamor (discourse in Chasidic teaching) perfectly, the pshetle (short discourse on a point of Jewish Law) was also very good and his speech was very touching. We are very, very proud of him. DH has prepared him well.
All in all it was wonderful. We did not miss music (no music during this period of “The Three Weeks”), because there was so much singing.
I have to say, it was very homelike. We did this in a small synagogue. The same one where we had our vort (engagement party), same one, where DS #1 had his bris (circumcision). I baked the chickens and made most of the cakes. The special big Bar Mitzva cake was baked by a dear friend, who baked cakes for my son’s bris and upshernish (boy’s first hearcut done on a third birthday) . She also made wonderful chocolate tefillin.
We bought kugels (potato and zucchini casseroles) and Chinese veggies. Also had lots of salads and pickles (we are Russians after all).
I baked the huge challah. It was not as pretty as store-bought, but I made it myself. This was part of the lesson we wanted to teach to DS #1 and our other kids. You do not have to spend tons of money on gourmet food, and chick decor. It is the people, who matter most and the effort put in only makes it all better.
A friend of mine, who is a party planner, has decorated the place and set up the tables with the help of my oldest daughter and her friend. And we hired a very nice waiter for the evening.
Another friend took lots of pictures, I will post some, when we get them.
It was wonderful, exhausting and fun.
Thank G-d the next one is six years away.
P.S. I did not finish the Bar Mitzvah vest. There just was not enough time. I think I pushed myself too hard and overdosed on it. I am half-way done and will give it some rest. My son is not upset about it and I forgave myself too.